As Devil said this situation have years and wont be solved in short time.
I agree with your that some players don´t cease fire when a FP squad arrives to dogfight enemy planes, but it´s also impossible to hit the right planes in middle of planes cloud.
When use CV I try to move out my planes if several friendly AA are in certain area, looking to intercept incomming enemy instead of fight over own battle line.
AA ships have a limited range, CV´s can move they own planes at will.